the one thing you must do

24th October 2013

audrey

Audrey, counting all the ways she don’t care

On the occasion of my first post as a 40 year old lady, it seemed fitting to write about a Very Important Conclusion I have reached: almost everything we think we have to do is bullshit. Ergo:

  • You don’t have to dream bigger, want more, want everything. You don’t have to want anything.
  • You don’t have to hanker for a life outside of the commute, cubicle and communal kitchen. You don’t have to stay at a job that eats away at your soul.
  • You don’t have to write a book. Or even want to write a book. You don’t have to be a starving artist.
  • You don’t have to keep your light under a bushel. Or flash it to the world.
  • You don’t have to juice everyday. Or be a vegetarian, fruitarian or fluten-gree. You don’t have to eat three meals a day. You don’t have to drink a metric tonne of water everyday. Or give up coffee. Or only drink rooibos tea.
  • You don’t have to love yoga. Or running. Or Crossfit. You don’t have to remain wrinkled. Or get Botox. You don’t have to believe anyone who says anything about your body. Ever.
  • You don’t have to put up with shitty customer service. Or ridiculous bank charges. You don’t have to spend any money with any company whose practices make you feel icky. You don’t have to tip.
  • You don’t have to accept bullying of any kind. Ever.
  • You don’t have to respond to your email, text, blog comments, retweets within 10 minutes. Or ever. You don’t have to have a blog. Or a twitter account. You don’t have to equate Facebook likes with acceptance and love. You don’t have to comment on anything online. Ever.
  • You don’t have to be passionately in love with your significant other every day. You don’t have to have 2.5 children. You don’t have to have a cute ‘how we met’ story. You don’t have to do ‘date night’.
  • You don’t have to stay silent if your relationship feels stale. If it dies, you don’t have to remain faithful. You don’t have to fight fair. You don’t have to give up.
  • You don’t have to believe in God. Or join a coven. Or put your faith in the power of tarot, crystals, angels, spirit animals or signs from the universe.
  • You don’t have to go through a mediator to commune with the divine.
  • You don’t have to make life-changing decisions after months of therapy. Or prayer.
  • You don’t have to have 6000 square foot of ocean-side property. You do not have to do housework every day. You do not have to live in a big city. Or own a pair of shoes or a handbag that costs as much as your monthly salary.
  • You don’t have to like anyone else at the school gate.
  • You don’t have to volunteer. Or sign petitions. Or define yourself by a movement, charity, political party, music genre.
  • You don’t have to be blonde. Or a size whatever.
  • You do not have to ask for permission. You don’t have to get it right. You don’t have to believe there is a right way. You don’t have to finish. Or feel like you can’t change your mind.
  • You don’t have to do anyfuckingthing that does not feel good to you. Ever.
  • You don’t have to live one more day without joy.

The one thing – the ONLY thing – you must do, is find out what works for you.

Find what lights you up, what makes you laugh, what feels like freedom. What feels like love. Find your YES!

And then squeeze the freakin’ living daylights out of THAT.

ps: this is now a poster – click here to download 🙂

 

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